The comparison trap is an ugly, ugly thing when it comes to blogging. But it happens to all of us, myself very much included. It creeps up in those moments where you find yourself casually stalking a blogger- first maybe seeing what their Twitter following is like, then exploring who’s commenting on their blog, and finally you’re headed for the archives, just to see how long they’ve been blogging only to find out it’s been all of two months and they seem HUGE. A total overnight success. Yeah, I do it too, people.
But it’s so pointless! Nothing good can come of that sequence of actions. Since I fall prey to it more often than I’d like to admit, I’ve come up a with a few commandments, if you will, of things to remind yourself when you find yourself in the above situation:
- First and foremost- remember that everyone falls into the comparison trap, no matter how big or small you are. NO MATTER. It happens to everyone- take solace in that.
- I’m quite convinced it doesn’t matter how many Twitter followers or Facebook likes you have- it will never feel like enough. Try to let go of those figures and resist blowing up what they stand for.
- The best blog content is the most original, so when you find yourself falling into the comparison trap use it as a signal to switch gears and channel that negative thought into dreaming up killer content! Or you know you could just get back to work…
- It’s really ok if you can’t take a good “selfie.” Let’s not even get into the fact that there’s such a term.
- Just because you don’t have a perfectly styled home, with an area that contains a stack of fashion books and perhaps a gold pig or two does not make you any less of a person. Seriously if I see one more pig…
- Lastly, and probably the most important one of the list- come back to your roots. Identify why you started blogging in the first place. I bet it has very little to do with pageviews. And if it does, well that’s a whole other problem in and of itself.
You guys feel me? What are your commandments? They’re important!